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21pieces of advice from the show’s hosts and guests — attributed, and linked to the moment each was said. Explore the full Childhood & Nostalgiahub →

How do you negotiate a better price in a retail store?

Josh recalls his kid-era tactic of asking staff 'what's the best price you've got?' and countering with a lower number to get them to meet in the middle.

Is it fair to drop old friends who haven't 'upgraded' alongside you?

Josh argues it's harsh to cut off old friends just because they're struggling or haven't kept pace in success, even if a tweet suggests upgrading your peer group; loyalty to people you grew up with still matters.

What would you tell your past self about handling self-doubt over a long-running creative project?

Ignore negative self-talk and the urge to think you should be doing more; success came from redefining what 'success' looked like rather than chasing an imagined perfect version of the show.

Is it safer to do a virtual party game than something like a party bus?

Statistically you're more likely to be harmed driving to work than playing a virtual game, so opting for a Zoom-based game avoids risks like motion sickness and unsafe retired buses used for party buses.

How can adults without kids reintroduce playfulness into their lives?

Tommy suggests intentionally engaging in childlike activities even without children present, such as flying a kite, drawing with chalk, jumping in puddles, climbing trees, or getting a glove and ball to throw at the park, framing it as advice to himself that he likely wouldn't do without his son prompting it.

What should I do if a piece of software/subscription feels too expensive?

Contact the provider directly and explain you're struggling with the cost — Tommy got his Adobe subscription reduced from $79 to $27 a month simply by asking.

How should people prepare for a coronavirus outbreak at home?

Consider storing supplies such as drinking water, food, and medication in case pharmacy or supply access becomes difficult, even if it's unclear which specific drugs would help with the virus itself.

How can someone with a quick temper become more even-tempered like a laid-back friend?

Cam explains it's not a conscious technique but a natural tendency to wait, lay back, and let things build rather than reacting immediately to emotions; when he does get annoyed, it takes a lot to get there and the result is going fully 'off' a person rather than frequent small outbursts.

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How can you get honest feedback from someone without making them defensive?

Frame feedback as 'the story I've created is...' rather than stating it as fact, which gives the other person room to correct you if your perception is wrong.

How do you get someone to reveal personal news without knowing what's going on in their life?

Open with 'Congratulations, man, heard the news' and people will typically reveal whatever is actually happening in their life.

How do you keep jokes or bits working in a long-running show?

Don't over-plan or force a punchline in the moment; instead, be willing to try something and let it develop as a slower-burn idea across multiple episodes rather than needing it to land immediately.

How should you think about money and wealth advice from people around you?

Take stock of who is talking to you about money, success and failure, and consider their actual experience with it — people who say 'money doesn't buy happiness' are often not the ones with significant wealth.

How should hair colour be chosen based on skin tone?

People with a pink skin pigment, especially men, generally suit cooler colour tones better than warm tones, so a colorist should factor in natural skin pigment when choosing a shade.

Should you commit fully to a local radio/media job or keep options open?

Commit fully to where you currently are rather than always having one foot out the door looking for the next opportunity, because half-committing stops you from making the most of your current role.

What practical tips help someone become a better on-camera presenter?

Know the energy you want to bring before the camera starts rolling (e.g. smiling into the shot just before you begin), but read the room—don't apply high energy in inappropriate contexts like a funeral.

How can you reclaim that carefree, pressure-free feeling from childhood as an adult?

Josh suggests consciously carving out dedicated time (even a full weekend) with your partner where you deliberately remove obligations like checking emails or work, similar to how kids had no pressures weighing on their mind.

How can couples avoid wasting their 'switch off' time scrolling through Netflix trying to decide what to watch?

Tommy suggests deciding on the movie or show beforehand (like the old Blockbuster model) and having a reliable, hassle-free streaming setup so time isn't lost fiddling with choices or cables.

How can parents reduce the risk of their children developing addiction?

Teach children to be emotionally articulate and intelligent — able to understand and express their emotions — since this is the best defence against turning to drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism.

Should I pursue modelling or build my self-worth around being good-looking?

Tommy warns there are dangers in having your self-image centred on good looks, noting he's seen friends affected negatively by a lifetime of attention based on appearance, and calls pursuing modelling 'a dangerous slope.'

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How should you think about your own judgmental reactions to other people?

Josh suggests that negative reactions to others' choices (eating poorly, etc.) often reflect self-directed negativity rather than objective judgment, and that recognising this is a step toward more empathy.

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What should you do if someone is trying to abduct you as a kid?

Josh recalls being taught at school to yell 'Fire! Fire!' instead of calling for help, on the theory that people respond faster to a fire alarm than to a stranger shouting for help.