Greg is an American comedian, married to Amiira Ruotola. He's worked in the media industry as a script consultant for HBO on the sitcom Sex and the City. Greg is also a New York Times bestselling author of He's Just Not that Into You.
From 2010 to 2015, Greg recorded his own podcast with his mate Dave Anthony titled Walking the Room.
Greg's Books:
www.amazon.com/Greg-Behrendt
Greg's Podcast:
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Greg's Website:
www.gregorybehrendt.com
Verbatim from the transcripts — each quote links to the moment.
“The one thing I've learned about self-help is it, it only comes when somebody puts a question at the end.”
“Maybe it's you, meaning where you think to yourself, oh, maybe it's me.”
“And I, I know that when I'm certain, there's a maybe a 99% chance that I'm wrong about everything.”
“My big thing is if one person in a relationship has resentment, the whole relationship is locked in that resentment.”
“The reason I've never made a sex tape is I didn't want to watch my wife suck a fucking bag of potatoes.”
“It really is, 100% of the time, in anything. You can change your life if you have the ability to be able to go, I'm gonna do it different.”
How should you give advice or feedback to a partner?
Self-help or advice only works when the other person asks a question at the end; unsolicited 'you know what you ought to do' statements are rarely wanted or absorbed.
What happens if resentment builds up in a relationship?
If one person in a relationship holds resentment, the whole relationship becomes locked in that resentment, even if the resentment seems small or the other person has moved on.
How do you know if a triggered thought or reaction is valid before confronting your partner?
Ask yourself why you're having the thought right now, whether you have real evidence or just hurt feelings/fear, and consider leading with your fear rather than accusations, since stated-as-fact certainty is usually wrong.
Greg retells a story he heard in another podcast interview about a young Tommy Brolin touching Denzel Washington's shoulder and getting snapped at, then choosing to defuse tension with humor rather than anger, which led to a lasting friendship.
Drawn from the episode transcripts.
It's a weekly podcast (every Tuesday) where married couple Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola have open, sometimes uncomfortable conversations about their marriage, which Greg says forces them to ask each other questions and hear answers they might otherwise avoid at home.
From episode 194→While performing a run of shows in Melbourne in 2015, Greg had worsening stomach pain initially treated as acid reflux. After a severe pain episode, a doctor and MRI found a tumour cluster in his intestine; Australian doctors sent him home to the US with OxyContin and self-injection needles to prevent blood clots on the flight, and he underwent surgery and six rounds of chemo.
From episode 194→They suggest following the sick person's lead rather than projecting your own emotional state onto them — showing you care without being more distressed than they are, and not treating them as suddenly defined by the illness.
From episode 194→Every episode featuring Greg Behrendt on The Daily Talk Show.
