#005 – Tommy is sick and rules for success/

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Hi everyone, it's the daily talk show. It's Josh here who noticed that I'm not in the normal studio setting. That is because I mean more words in Abbotsford and what was that what do you want non you know, have some part I need the cops anyway you probably wondering why Tommy is he's currently sick, maybe food poisoning from some frozen beans that he ate. Anyway he's being vomiting and so this isn't a normal episode in the daily talk show to that need to that he is just a recording that Tommy did the other day with his mate, Craig Kaka who is a like a life coach. So there'll be interesting, feel free to subscribe to us on iTunes. It's the daily talk show. My name is Josh chance. And my mates Tommy jacket. He's baking and Craig copper. Remember, you can send us an email p o box 400 episode. Victoria 3067. Thank you for listening

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raw. We talk a lot about videos and stuff that's going mad online and good podcasts. A lot of momentum. Yeah, one thing that you did that has had a lot of momentum. Yes. Is the 12 fucking

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12 fucking Yes. It's funny, that isn't it. So I one day I literally sat there and

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drag that 12 principles or rules or ideas or thoughts that I share commonly

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and essentially put a fuck in each each one of the principles. And it went, it went a bit viral. It went a lot viral. So every time you've posted a couple of times, and each time you posted things, well, 10s of thousands of shares, shares, not not likes, but 10s of thousands of shares. It's been turned into posters, it's been made into fucking tea towels. And it's it's all over the world. It's been translated into different languages. And it's really interesting what you know, as somebody you know, and, and I know, and half of your viewers might be people who work in the space where they want an audience or they're trying to create connection, or they're trying to share an idea or they're trying to build a brand or whatever. It's really interesting to see what people connect with. And one of the things some people connect with done the right way. The right way is swearing. As long as there's something intelligent wrapped around it. It's not just somebody bloody cursing for the sake of it. But yeah,

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I want to go through it with you. Because I have you have you made a video about it? No, I haven't. Tom Well, it's might be it. Are we doing it was it said the 12 fucking rules for success by Craig Harper. Number one. Do the fucking work. Don't be lazy. Hmm.

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Well, I think we, I think we overthink the shit out of things. And, you know, at the end of the day, after the theory, the idea, the plan, the intention, the the goal, setting the fucking conversation at some stage, we've got to roll up our sleeves and start doing because transformation lives in the application of the information to doing not the knowing so do the work doesn't matter how smart you are, how many plans and intentions you got. If you don't do the work, you don't get the result number to stop fucking waiting. It's time somebody that some people have been waiting, like, a lot of people will tell you that it's a timing thing. It's like, I'm not I'm not getting in shape yet. Or I'm not joining a gym yet. Or I'm not starting a business yet or not. And look, timing is an issue. But for the most part why people don't succeed. It's not the issue. So if you've been waiting for the right time to get in shape since 1998, it's probably a huge thing more than a time. Number three, rely on yourself. The universe doesn't give a fuck. Well, this is a polarizing one, because, okay, so for me, I talk about the universe. I'm talking about the universe that I learned about at school, you know, big kind of space with planets and shit. Yeah, you know, stars and suns and moons. And,

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and I think a lot of people see the universe is some kind of form of cosmic intelligence that's having an input into your life. So it's a bit different. But for me, that's not what it means. And also, even if it is that at the same time, the universe can't get out of bed for you, the universe can't have a good attitude for you, the universe can't take action for you, the universe can't overcome fears for you, or create outcomes for you. So at some stage, irrespective of what your philosophical or spiritual or theological beliefs are, at some stage, it still comes back to your behavior

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like it. Thanks, Tom.

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And number four, don't give a fuck if you don't

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know, we'll get to that one. You just want to support me, then I am. I'm just that's why I am an only child though. And done a little bit of No, number four, be fucking practical success is not a theory. Well, that ties into the last one. I mean, you know, very much it is like there we need to plan when it to formulate when it's set goals, who need to create a structure and a process. But at the same time transformation is all about what we can do and what we can affect and what we can execute consistently over time. Number five, be productive early, don't fuck around all day. Because this this device people are fucking around on all that. And do you mean early is in actually earlier in the day just get shit done early. It's one of my tongue.

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I mean, there's lots of research if we want to get a bit science here that says for and we're talking about non shift workers. So for the average person who gets up at five, or six or seven, or whatever, the more we get done early in the day, the better place where in mentally and emotionally and the more momentum we create to be more productive life during the day, but also to set ourselves up for a better day in terms of what's happening internally. So, you know, if you kind of sleep in and you procrastinate, you avoid stuff and you put stuff off and you finally slide out of bed at 11am, there's probably not a big chance you're going to be super productive. I can't. It's

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like sleeping too long. And you feel more tired.

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I don't get it as had

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number six. Yeah, that'd be a fucking baby lives had Get on with it. Well, if he's had Craig,

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I mean, you know, life's awesome and life, you know, bad things happen to good people. Life's not fair.

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You know, and sometimes not. Not everybody. But sometimes we're a bit precious. We want the result without the work. We, we, we want everything to be quick, easy, comfortable, painless. And sometimes it's pretty easy. Sometimes it's really difficult, you know, and,

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you know, my mom's got cancer at the moment, which is not awesome. But you go all right, well, that's the reality so we can wind and soak and moan and be a baby and compliant and she's still got cancer you go all well, what then? What's in our control? Well, nutrition, sleep treatment, attitude, love support choices. So in the middle of the messiness and the bullshit of cancer, you go, all right, what's in our control? Let's manage that.

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Number seven, I was a positive thinker Realty. In fact, he didn't expect me to open the cancer door in the middle of your little hilarious, whatever.

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It's going to be bright.

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Can you

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do you want me to

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this is on the go. Oh, that's much better. Well,

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we got really brought it. There's a window right there. So I brought it carry on. And number seven don't hang out with factoids. Well, they

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say Don't you love it? When people say they say you go to Phuket die who the vast Saturday What about when science or will science tells us? No, it doesn't. For fucking science. Show

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me the voice. I've always thought they should be like a number. You can call just to back up.

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Hello today. Yeah. Did you say this? Yeah. Yeah, we said it. Thank you. Um, they say

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that way we become the average of the five people we hang out with the most. So I believe that we are influenced greatly, consciously or not intentionally not for better or worse by who we spend time with. And same with you know, like what you read and what you listen to what you expose yourself to affects you

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So hang out with people who drag you up. So one of the things I do is work with alcoholics and addicts and what we strongly encourage obviously is when the boys and girls leave the program that they don't go back and start hanging out with that acts causes fair chance you're going to start using again and so it's just realizing that your environment and the people in your environment impact you directly and powerfully one way or the other

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like this one. Don't fucking waste energy on sheet you can't control the new like the other

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ones. I like them all. There is actually one that we haven't got to that's my favorite. So what was that? Don't waste you wrote it man. Don't waste

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the otter No, I haven't looked at since that white energy on sheet you can't control

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Yes, good. That's good advice.

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Yeah, I think it's

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number nine. This is my favorite. Stop bullshitting. It's fucking embarrassing

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That's funny. Look at me laughing at my own shit like an idiot

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well you know we bullshit we we we bullshit ourselves we bullshit others

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you know the person that says why don't lie I'm not well they're the big

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everybody fucking laws That's a cute baby that's not looks like a lizard now if people don't like I bet that they just weren't mentioned that your baby's cues now they do

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oh look at him. Why he told you your babies. Kids realize now

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stop around with backwards he's

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super cute. But fortunately he's super cute. Um. Yeah we do you know it's Do you think we should lie to you ever think there's a tom to It's okay. It's morally catalog these one that I'm battling with? Like, how honesty be how, like, somebody comes up. They're wearing the worst fucking outfit you've ever seen. Like my dress? Yeah, yeah.

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Yeah, I definitely line that circumstance. Definitely. But there's one that we can't say. But I'm a new dad. Right. And there's one thing that I might have to talk to. I won't go any further. But it's

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one thing I tell half his story. Yeah,

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but I think you can get it for turning off and reruns lie to their kids there's mostly one thing that it's about this tube

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whoa Whoa. Whoa. Yeah. What do you say? I don't want to

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tell your kid that's bullshit. Really?

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Alright well I'm still not the worst fucking parent Are you trying to be a bad debt say you saying that is there a time to lie Of course there

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is of course there is all right i'll much of childhood is predicated online. You the best kid and you're so pretty. You're the smartest kid and now you're not. You're just fucking average. I love you. But your average you like every other kid at the school? What about that? We tell our kids how unique and special and then I got to school with 1000 other kids just like them. It doesn't mean that they're not beautiful and special to us. It's just not good, though.

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So what you're saying is law.

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That's one

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number 10.

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Yeah. Stop being a fucking people. Please. It's sad. It's exhausting. It's sad. It's unnecessary. When you are a people pleaser. You might temporarily or momentarily make someone feel a bit better or happier. But over the long term, they're going to manipulate you because they think you're easy and week you're going to frustrate yourself. It's nice to be nice, Tom, but it's not nice to be an emotional doormat.

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Yeah, true. Okay. We thought neck. Can we put that on an actual doormat?

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Probably a bit long Hey, what are we get a doormat and just write emotional on it and we sell that shit online. Would you do that and we're

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getting some product and getting out there

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hey if anyone watching this if either of you watching this have a company that makes doormats Can you contact us surely surely this one that you can get something printed on

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like it just use a spray can if was how funny

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would that be

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number 11. Stop putting toxic sheet in your body? It's fucking stupid. Well,

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again, self explanatory, but I think I would just Yes, well, that's self explanatory. But what I would say around that is

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if I had a very specific piece of advice, it would be start to read and understand food labels and differentiate between what's written on the front of the product, which is called marketing and the Tani fucking box on the back with the numbers which is called information.

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Yeah, its last five years. It's been a shift in that for me even just understanding like I kind of knew what about it, but I just looked for sugar. Now if there's added sugar to something there's higher levels of sugar I reckon

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if there's a whole lot of numbers, walk emulsify. 32174 that's my favorite flavor five seven to our stuff, preservative 61 if they shit like that on the back that's unrecognizable as food and donate it Yeah, fair enough. Yeah. Number 12. Find a one stop doing the same fucking thing and hoping ship will change. Well, obviously, that's a very old insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different outcome with fuck inserted in there. But we are creatures of habit. And some of us do live in a behavioral version of Groundhog Day. That is, we do the same things that didn't work the last week, month year. And we somehow think that we're going to end up in a different place, whether literally or metaphorically, but, you know, identify the things that serve you and identify the things that sabotage you make some decisions, you know, and change your behavior around that to happen quickly. Now, is it possible? Yes. Is it easy, not always. But it's, you know, apart from all the swearing and all the silliness, we're all works in progress. You know, everyone wants everyone that I know, and everyone that I work with, and everyone that I meet, including you, everyone has one thing in common, and that is we want to create better results in our world. You know, with that business and marriage, brand health and wellness, we want more, you know, more fulfillment, more passion, more purpose, more money, more relaxation, whatever it is, and it's trying to identify what that means for you. What does that mean for me a better life or a better body or a better marriage or a better state of mind? or What does that mean? What does that look like and what do I what what do I need to stop doing and what do I need to stop doing so that I might get where I want to go and then in the middle of all of that, creating and doing and thinking and planning and strategizing

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is to find a way in the middle of all of that to be the calm in the chaos so that we irrespective of what's going on in our world, good or bad predicted or unpredicted that we find a way to be calm, that we find a way to manage our emotional now psychological states. So that one we're not constantly overthinking and anxious and stressed and wasting emotional and but

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we're also a good person to be around

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that to date. Tom That's right. I mean I'm pretty comfy on this chair. So when you

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say all right,

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but I'm not gonna I'm not gonna tell you 10 out of 10 all the time.

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One last question can we make this black and white because I don't like the color

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I'll do whatever

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is inside that Why was I so I guess I can do

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whatever God

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and why did you stop at 12? what what what's the significance of 12

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what I felt it was biblical okay yeah and I'm pretty damn biblical

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I don't know who put a stop at any number it might be a ran out of ideas I've actually done

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I've actually done another 12 Evie it hasn't been released that has not been published What are you calling it well it's called another 12 facts and rules for success super creative like it when's it coming out

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one of them is so offensive

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This is good

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even me who has almost no filter I have time I'll tell you what it is when when we get off a I'm sure you get in and out but it's

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as objects someone in this laughing You remembered what it is then you

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hang on when we get a fondness and when we get to say that

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well whenever you post this I will

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in a few days of what is this going to be out and I

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will wait whenever this is up yet in the following week I will publish it and you can take it for a spin and will but I think the second one is maybe better than the first one and the first one went mental so cycles I think when I say mental I mean that I didn't went really well okay apologists show because you already apologizing for the words you're saying now not I know I've said facts 38 times but I was you don't to be misinterpreted. being insensitive. Yes,

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but you'll be interpreters. insensitive with the new another 12 fucking rules of success. I can't wait for this.

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I'm really bored. Can we finished a we're done five.

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